Love and Work

#180541146 / gettyimages.com Love and work are two cornerstones of adult human life. The capacity to love and work adequately was considered by Freud as important for our well-being. Adult romantic or love relationships are grounded in childhood attachment patterns. As per the famous and well researched and validated attachment theory, childhood attachment figures and the quality of our attachment with the primary caregiver, serve as templates for future adult relationships. Attachment theory posits that there are at-least three different kinds of attachment patterns- secure attachment (when parental care-giving is consistent and available) , insecure anxious attachment and insecure avoidant attachment. While there is bound to be some effects due to child’s temperament, the attachment pattern is mostly supposed to be governed by parental care-giving style. Although the primary ‘attachment figure’ or care-giver can be any parent, its typically the mother. The father is typically the disciplinarian or primary ‘authority figure’. That brings me to work. While love is connection and intimacy, work is a constraint and usually a necessity. One of the important skills to succeed in adult work life is to be comfortable with legitimate authority and also having the skills and confidence to wield authority when in a position to do so. It is my thesis, that adult workplace adjustment, as operationalized by acceptance and flourishing in one’s place in...
Source: The Mouse Trap - Category: Psychiatrists and Psychologists Authors: Tags: development emotion Freud Love Parenting Sigmund Freud Source Type: podcasts