Christmas 2020

On this Christmas morning, I want to reach out to everyone whose lives have radically changed this year. That ' s certainly true of Schuyler and me, and only some of that is due to the pandemic. Last Christmas was something of a disaster, mostly because we were in the middle of a divorce, and you can say all you want about the very best intentions, but that word " amicable " still has a lot of room for heartbreak.We ' re here now, in a new town with new people we love around us, and that ' s a positive thing, but it ' s also challenging. Christmas is the season of joy and connecting with the ones you love, but it ' s also a time of traditions. Not just about preserving our own traditions and our own sense of family, either. It ' s also about making space for everyone else ' s ways, their hopes and their routines and rituals, and respecting them as much as you do your own. I have a lot of work to do there. When families change and form into new things, it can be difficult to hang onto the traditions that matter. But they do matter, very much, and I ' ve been trying my very best to keep alive the ones that are meaningful to Schuyler. That ' s my job as her father, and more than ever since I upended her life so radically this year. It ' s important for her to feel like she belongs here, and for the people here to find a reason to accept us into their world. I suppose that ' s true for me as well. I ' m not sure I ' m succeeding, but there it is. I try and I fail and I ...
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