Why People Might Not Like You

Everybody says I’m such a disagreeable man! And I can’t think why! – Gilbert and Sullivan, “If You Give Me Your Attention” lyrics Amidst floundering approval numbers, President Trump is baffled about why people don’t like him. “It can only be my personality,” he surmised. Well, maybe. But perhaps there’s more to it than that.  It got me wondering how many people feel similarly. We want to be liked and respected, but no matter how hard we try, we find ourselves feeling isolated and dumbfounded as to why other people may not like us. See if the following applies to you. The movement from being clueless to clued-in often begins by replacing the addiction to blaming, shaming, or attacking others with a capacity for courageous introspection and entertaining the distasteful — but ultimately liberating — prospect that the cause might lie within ourselves.  Here are three reasons why we might be pushing away the affection that we desire. 1. Do You Care About People? Wanting people to care about you and like you is a natural longing. But to what extent do you care about others’ well-being? If you’re adept at taking — always looking for what you can get without much bandwidth to notice what others might need from you, then it’s little wonder why people aren’t chomping at the bit to include you in their circle of friends. How often do you offer your undivided attention to others? Do you inquire into how they’re doing, what’s happ...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Ethics & Morality Friends General Happiness Mental Health and Wellness Perfectionism Personality Psychology Relationships Self-Help Personal Growth Respect Source Type: blogs