5 Reasons Your Definition of Love Sets You Up for Failure

Unlucky in love? Your definition of love is probably the reason. Universally, there are only two things every person wants: Love and money. Of the two, money is so much simpler to understand and obtain. It’s transactional. You provide a service. You make money. Done. The definition of love, on the other hand, is harder to pin down. And so much more complicated when what you think you know is both ironic and contradictory. Love is fleeting. Love is forever. It’s all-consuming, yet mercurial. Difficult to keep. A marriage is love that lasts a lifetime, though you better enjoy the honeymoon period, because it won’t last. And watch out for the seven-year itch! 10 Things Truly Happy Couples Do Daily to Keep Their Love Strong Even with evidence that marriage doesn’t equal love and love doesn’t last, you still pretend that it will. That’s a pretty high and unrealistic bar you’ve just set for yourself. So, what is your definition of love, and how could it be holding you back in your relationship? Sure, I have no doubt that you’ve been in love before. And what happened? Your experiences never matched up to all those fairy tales you consumed as a child. You think it does… At first. You’ve cast them as the leading role in the movie you’re acting out in your mind. Your brain is your most powerful sex organ, after all. Then, that exciting, heady rush of attraction and lust burns out. Maybe it lasted long enough to get married. And maybe you got married anyway, even ...
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