One More Time on Feeling Deserving

As I’ve written before, at the root of many troubled eaters’ food problems is the issue of not feeling deserving of health, happiness, success, etc. They are conflicted about whether or not they’re deserving of good things in life and, hence, behave sometimes as if they are and other times as if they aren’t. Let’s get this straight once and for all: everyone is deserving and you are no exception. A person who feels deserving, never thinks about it. It’s simply something they are like green-eyed or brown-haired, witty or a artsy. They are because, well, they are. I know that sounds awfully simplistic, but the subject is just that: simple. Many of you try to make it more complicated as in, “I’m deserving if” or “I’m deserving because.” You’re deserving because you were born. Think about it. There’s no way some folks are born deserving and some folks aren’t. That doesn’t make any sense, does it? You feel (but are not) undeserving because that’s how you were treated either overtly or covertly in childhood. If your parents were highly critical of you, you come to feel less than and defective, that is, undeserving. If they acted as if you were stupid, worthless, lazy, or unwanted, that’s what you believed because it was said or implied repeatedly. As children, when adults speak, why would we question their veracity? They rule. The root reason you feel undeserving is because people caused you to feel that way—not that you are. Get the diff...
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