How to Get Treated with Respect

Not being treated with respect by a boss, spouse, partner, colleague, parent, child, co-worker, or whomever may drive you to seek comfort in food. If you want respect, you must act in ways that make crystal clear that you will settle for nothing less. Here’s how. If someone is determined to be mean, critical, shaming, hurtful and disrespectful, there’s often nothing you can do about it. But more often than not, you hold the power to command respect and don’t use it. Think of the times you’ve repeatedly been spoken to rudely and not called someone on it, have failed to stand up for yourself when a defense was exactly what was required, or have let people walk all over you—then headed straight for the cookie jar. Those behaviors are on you, not on the folks who’ve been rude or cruel, because you failed to show yourself respect. So...  Stop apologizing for things you didn’t do wrong. If you make a mistake, say you’re sorry once (maybe twice), and that’s it.  Avoid saying “I’m sorry” as a habit. When someone asks you an inappropriate question or makes an unreasonable demand, pay attention to how you feel. Your initial, habitual reaction might be anxiety. With reflection, however, you may realize that you feel rightfully angry about being scolded, teased, or taken advantage of. Anger is exactly what you want to be feeling, so let it build and see what response it may lead to. If someone makes harsh comments about you, stop t...
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