Linkage: "Don’t be that dude: Handy tips for the male academic" - by Tenure She Wrote

If people are looking at you like this, you may have said something insensitiveWorth a read. Although the title could just as easily have been left as, "Don’t be that dude: Handy tips for the male."Highlights:11. Learn about benevolent sexism 12. Learn what mansplaining is13. Learn what the tone argument is 14. Learn how to apologize when someone has called you out for inappropriate behavior. In re #14, I think social etiquette of the Old Skool variety actually pays off here. If a person registers offence at a remark one has made, it's just plain respectful and good mannered to lead with an immediate apology. One unencumbered by qualifications such as, "But" or "If". Just a straight up mea culpa. What does it really cost?The alternative, which is to become defensive and attempt to justify the remark, or question the legitimacy of the offence taken, simply speaks to an awful sort of social cynicism, imho. One that implies that we assume the worst in people; that the individual in this case who has taken offence must either be overreacting - perhaps to garner sympathy - or is just plain silly and ignorant. That's a pretty sad state of mind to inhabit, when you get right down to it.So, if someone tells us they are offended by a remark (which takes a lot of courage to do in the first place, thus commanding respect in its own right), it's infinitely more gracious to assume this sentiment is sincere. And why not? Each of...
Source: Across the Bilayer - Category: Medical Scientists Source Type: blogs