Letting Go: How to Live With the Loss of a Loved One

Note from Leo: This is a guest post from my friend, Suraj Shah, who wrote this post as a favor to me after a reader asked about how to deal with the loss of a loved one. Suraj writes regularly about dealing with loss on his blog, Live With Loss. I’ll hand it over to Suraj now: Editor’s Note: Guest post by Suraj Shah. In the midst of a busy life flooded with demands from all directions, the loss of a loved one can be striking enough to stop us in our tracks, forcing us to evaluate what’s important and question how to move forward in life. But the months following the death of someone we care about can be filled with a whole array of emotions ranging from anger and sadness, through to guilt and even relief. The grip these feelings have over us can leave us feeling stuck, confused and distraught. The single biggest cause of this ‘stuckness’ is attachment – gripping firmly onto someone who is no longer in your life, and the pushes and pulls that make that relationship what it is. Lets explore this root cause of the pain that you may be going through and discover a way to calm the volatile emotions. 1. Identify the attachments in your relationship We can start by looking at the various types of attachments from your relationship. What pains you the most about them no longer being in your life? What are the pushes and pulls that made your relationship what it was? shelter: You may have depended on them to look after you, to care for ...
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