My Answer To The Question – How do I tell him his lifestyle isn’t for me?

Many of you like the questions and answers on this blog. I just found another one from ‘Telling It Like It Is’ who asks A few months ago I started dating a recovering addict — he’s been clean 18 years and he’s in his late 40s. Things were going great and I was VERY supportive of his recovery, as he had meetings every Friday night, but he would often take me out to dinner with those friends now and then, so I was a “part” of his recovery life, too.However, the closer we got over the past few weeks, he’s been going to MORE meetings..He goes almost every night and he’ll call me quickly and say “I gotta make a meeting”..and I’m thinking after 18 years he still needs more than 1 or 2 nights to rehash the same addiction stories over and over.I’m losing interest because he spends more time with people at these meetings than he does with me. I honestly don’t want to tell him that his recovery life is a turn off, because I don’t want to sound selfish — and I already told him I don’t have a problem with it.But now it’s cutting into our time together because he’s going to more now than he did when we first started dating!!I’ve been ignoring his calls because I am afraid to tell him his recovery “baggage” is just too much for me. Without retracting my support, how can I end it with him by diplomatically telling him this is just not what I wanted in a relati...
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