Cultivating Indifference
You may believe that hate is the
opposite of love and that there’s no alternative but to love or dislike someone
or something, like food. What if there’s another affective state you could
cultivate, an underrated, not often talked about alternative which would bring
you peace of mind? There is and it’s called indifference.
When I talk with clients about
cultivating indifference, they generally have little idea whatI mean. We so often think of indifference as a negative emotion, one to be
avoided like apathy. We want to have passions and strong feelings. It’s so easy
to fall into love or into hate because both emotions make us feel vividly
alive. Some people even think that hate is the opposite of love, but how can it
be? They both keep you mentally/emotionally tethered firmly to someone or something, while the true opposite
of connection is disconnection.
Whether you love or hate to
practice the piano, you’re still connected to those ivories. Whether you love
or hate your parents, they’ve still got a claim on your brain matter and heart,
taking up a great deal of real estate in your mental landscape. Although it
feels crummy to dislike your parents and may even generate guilt and shame, it
keeps the connection alive in your mind. When we hate people or things, we
often think about them as much as we do when we love them, cementing attachment.
However, when we’re indifferent to
someone or something, we don’t think much about it. If it ...
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