If you could choose whether you or your spouse had cancer

Who would you choose? Cancer is hard. But if I had to choose who got sick, me or my husband, I would definitely say my husband – not for the physical selfish reasons but because I don’t think he has the patience to deal with or rather is able to handle all of the day to day things that I do. If I were the one sick, the children would for certain be in day care because my husband has told me in the past that he couldn’t stay home with the twins all day. Our son is very active and needs a lot of attention and my husband doesn’t have the patience to deal with it. If I were sick with cancer, I don’t believe that my husband could take care of my needs the way I take care of his. He can barely remember to take his own medications, let alone remember someone else’s. I remember when I was in the hospital in labor with the twins. My husband thought I was going to pop those babies out right away, and he would have enough time to make it back to work for his morning coffee break. But labor doesn’t usually work that way and I didn’t end up delivering until the next morning. He saw the babies for a few hours while I was recovering, and once I was settled he hurried off to work because he had already missed a day. It’s been three years since my husband’s stem cell transplant, and he still does not feel well. Even if my husband had never been sick, I don’t think his patience would hold out that long if we were to swap shoes. ...
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