Do We Need More Mindlessness?
I know I’m bucking the trend here,
but hundreds of conversations with clients have convinced me that there is an
often missed correlation between mindfulness
around food and mindlessness in the
rest of the lives of disregulated eaters. From my perspective, many of them
would benefit greatly from being more mindless in life so that they can become
more mindful around food. Here’s why.
As I wrote in Nice Girls Finish Fat (whose ideas also apply to “nice” men), your
typical disregulated eater—at least those I’ve come across in my 30 years in
the field—is no goof off who wants only to party, play, take life easy, and let
loose. I’m not saying that some weren’t perhaps that way at one point in their
lives, only that when I meet them, they’re fixated on being responsible, doing
things “right,” achieving success, and desiring above almost all else to be
“good” people. Frivolity, recklessness, and wild abandon would be hard-pressed
to make their list of stated intentions.
In my experience, most disregulated
eaters are so tightly wound that they find it almost impossible to unwind,
relax, chill out, and kick back. To the contrary, they exhibit excessive mindfulness—guarding what they say in order
to please others, putting too much effort into doing the right thing so they
don’t offend, keeping their noses to the grindstone, and obsessing about
decisions to ensure they’re on the “correct” path. They’re so driven to “mind...
Source: Normal Eating - Category: Eating Disorders Authors: eatnormalnow Source Type: blogs