Reader Question – Should I get involved? My friend’s boyfriend is a total jerk and I genuinely care about my friend!?

Many of you might be asking this same question so I’m posting with the answer here. Enjoy. The question is from Kalysa I know it’s not my place to judge or to tell anyone who to date or who not to date but I honestly cant stand my friend’s boyfriend! He is a “recovering” heroin addict, or so he claims. It’s in brackets because I highly, highly doubt that he is. My friend is adamant that he is recovering and is willing to give him money for “treatment” or whatever else he requires. He has been obnoxious, arrogant, rude and disrespectful since day one. I shrugged it off initially because I didn’t want to cause any tension between me and my friend, but I cant stand it anymore. I cant stand how he is. He does not care about her at all, and he is using her only for her money. He’s 23 and lives with his parents, which by itself wouldn’t be a big deal, however he does not pay them rent, does not have a job, and alternates stealing money from various people, living exclusively off government cheques and the generous “aid” from those enabling him. We do not live in the same city. I purchased a $500 plane ticket to come see her, and was excited to spend some time together without anyone else. We had plans together. However, she says she no longer can afford to go to the city (she lives in a small town about an hour and a half away from the city where we were gonna hang out) so we’d have to do stuff in...
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