Misinterpretations That Drive Unwanted Eating
Too many disregulated eaters have
low regard for themselves and, therefore, don’t take care of themselves as if
they’re deserving of high-quality self care. For those of you who think you’re defective
and aren’t worth eating healthfully, here’s another take on the subject and how
you might have mistakenly come to think about things incorrectly.
Take this scenario. As a young
child, let’s say your mother or father or both frequently criticized you, raged
at you out of the blue over petty concerns, and treated you as if your needs
were wrong or didn’t matter. In your child’s limited brain, you assumed they
were treating you poorly because there was something wrong with you. The
equation goes like this: they treat me as if there’s something bad about me, so
there must be.
Now, let’s move away from you
personally and take a look at three situations, all anecdotes from my life.
After reading each one, say aloud your reaction to who was in the wrong. In
fact say it twice, so you know definitely who belongs in a negative light.
I was in a Boston post office where a young boy knocked
over a stanchion holding a rope to keep people in line. No
one got hurt and the deed was clearly accidental. His mother screamed at him,
“What is wrong with you?,” whacked
his head with a bunch of magazines, and yanked his arm fiercely. Who was in the
wrong—the mom or the boy?
I was visiting a new acquaintance, a man who had
just...
Source: Normal Eating - Category: Eating Disorders Authors: eatnormalnow Source Type: blogs