Q&A: How come women don’t want to date a recovering alcoholic?

I was looking through some old posts and found this question. I thought it was a good one so I wanted to post an answer here. The question comes from ‘Bill’: I”m a recovering alcoholic and and have no social life anymore. I can’t seem to make any friends at all in AA, and I don’t think I will ever get over my ex-girlfriend unless I start dating someone else.I’ve tried MATCH.COM and another site, but I always get the same answer, sometimes immediately. Either women:1. Just don’t want to date anyone that’s a recovering addict/alcoholic.2. Don’t want to date anyone that doesn’t drink.I was just hoping someone could tell me why?I’m 45, single, live alone and a pretty nice guy. Women in recovery generally don’t date men in recovery. Answer: It depends on how much of your life is consumed with AA. Some recovering alcoholics (and NA people) I’ve known can get pretty righteous about their “recovery”. It can be a big turnoff, not because of the alcohol factor, but because it’s so one-track. I am not in AA or NA but my partner is 23 years NA. He doesn’t drink and I am less likely to when we go places. I have been to meetings with him. But the crucial thing is that NA doesn’t define his entire life. He’s a person of diverse interests and happens to be in recovery. It may take years for you to feel comfortable in the company of those that do drink, but it is possible ...
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