Question/Answer: a loved one is in desperate need of help. he’s an alcoholic who is finally admitting his problem.?

‘lucy’ asks a great question so I thought I’d post it here with an answer – enjoy: My problem is I’ve never had to deal with an alcoholic, or any addict who was so close to me. all I feel I can do, and have been doing, is to encourage him to seek professional help. I’m scared and heartbroken. When he’s sober, he is very realistic and positive about doing something. But then he gets drunk, and a violent, self hating emotional person comes out.Any AA members or family/friends of addicts out there with some advice? Answer: I’ve been sober for 10.5 years. I went to AA for the first nine of those years, long enough to know the program very well. I do not recommend AA to ANYONE. It is not the benign thing people think it is; it is more like a religious cult than anything else and the behavior of so many of the members is just sick. Sexual predators abound, often sponsors are complete control-freaks, the ideology is nuts, and worst of all they tell you if you leave, you’ll die. No, actually, worst of all is that the program doesn’t work. The success rate of AA members is just about the same as the success rate of people who quit on their own!And Al-Anon is NOT a group dedicated to helping alcoholic loved ones recover. Just go to their website and you’ll see–that’s not what it is for. No, Al-Anon is actually a “recovery” group too, just like AA, only this time, YOU are the sick one, the ...
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