9 Signs of a Control Freak

Identifying controlling behaviors can be frustrating. Co-dependents, alcoholics and addicts often practice controlling behavior. Recovery means letting go of control. The first step suggests that “We admitted we were powerless over …”. This list may help start the process. Control freaks rarely know that they are trying to control. They believe that they are helping people with their “constructive criticism” or taking over a project because “no one else will do it right.” They don’t see their controlling behaviors as symptoms of what’s really going on–their own anxiety has run amuck. Irrational thoughts abound in our high stress world: If I don’t get this contract, I’ll get fired. If I’m not home by 6:00, I’m a terrible parent. If I don’t get that raise, I suck at my job. All of these thoughts might be true, but probably not. Rather than tackle our own irrational thinking and massage it into more realistic thinking, you attempt to control the situation, usually by trying to control other people. Want to know if you’re a control freak? Here are nine signs for your self-diagnosis; You believe that if someone would change one or two things about themselves, you’d be happier. So you try to “help them” change this behavior by pointing it out, usually over and over. You micromanage others to make them fit your (often unrealistic) expectations. You don’t believe in i...
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