Book Review: The Human Magnet Syndrome

The experience of falling in love can be indescribable. We don’t know why, we can’t explain it, but we just feel irrisistably drawn to someone. However, according to Ross Rosenberg, these magnetic attractions can allure us into sacrificing our own dreams, desires, and even freedom for what quickly begins to feel a lot less like love. In his new book, The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissistic Trap, Rosenberg delves into this seductive love force to uncover what it looks like, why it happens, and how we can turn it around. “Since the dawn of civilization, people have been magnetically and irresistibly drawn together into romantic relationships not so much by what they see, feel, and think, but by much more invisible forces,” writes Rosenberg. Rosenberg describes these forces as a dance that both the codependent and the narcissist fall into like a familiar pattern. “My dance metaphor idea proposed that codependents are passive dancers who feel natural and comfortable taking on the role of the follower in the relationship dance. Conversely, it explains how narcissists are active dance partners who feel natural and most comfortable taking charge or leading the dance,” writes Rosenberg. While on a conscious level, the narcissist and the codependent feel they have met their soulmate, deeper and darker feelings of resentment, anger, frustration, and pain lie underneath – often reflecting familiar dysfunctional patterns. “The psychological forces that...
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