The Delusional Fantasies We Live With Each Day

‘Most human beings spend 50 to 90 percent or more of their time in their imagination, living in fantasy.’ ~Charlotte Joko Beck By Leo Babauta We fail at creating new habits because of fantasies. We procrastinate because of fantasies. We get frustrated with other people, with ourselves, because of fantasies. We miss out on the wonder of the world because of fantasies. We — all of us — live our lives in delusion most of the time. That might not seem true, but consider: When you wake up and start thinking about what you’re going to do today, your plans aren’t really happening, but are all in your head. When you fear the failure that might come when you tackle this big work task, and you procrastinate, it’s not failure that’s actually happening but it’s all in your head. When someone does something that irritates you, this is because they aren’t acting as you think they should (they should be more considerate), but this “acting how you think they should” is not reality but an ideal you have, in your head. The frustration stems not from their actions but from how their actions differ from your fantasies. When you start out with a new habit (let’s say exercise), you are motivated by a fantasy of what your life will be like when you create the habit … but that’s not real. When the reality of the habit happens, it never matches up with your fantasy. It’s often harder, sloppier. Less idea...
Source: Zen Habits - Category: Life Coaches Authors: Tags: Happiness Source Type: blogs