Six tips for talking with your child about cleft lip or palate

Having a facial difference such as cleft lip or palate can be difficult for any child, but it’s especially challenging when they’re about to enter a new social situation like going to school. For some parents, this time is even more stressful than it is for children. In fact, many of the parents whom I meet in the Cleft and Craniofacial Center at Boston Children’s Hospital tell me that having discussions with their child about the cleft is the number-one concern.  Ideally, you’ll start talking with your child about school or other social situations well in advance. Remember, family is our first real social experience, so I encourage these preparatory conversations in the home environment. If you’re worried about how your child will adjust to school’s social dynamics, I recommend the following six steps. Take the time. Be intentional about talking with your child about their cleft. Parents tend to be very simplistic in their description of this difference, referring to it as a “boo boo.” While not a negative word, I encourage you to take it a step further by using just as simple but more precise language: Call it a cleft. Set aside about five to 10 minutes a week to help your child understand the basics of the condition — in a developmentally appropriate manner — so they’ll feel more empowered to talk about it with peer groups and authority figures. Role play. Teach your child about the importance of nonverbal communication and practice body langua...
Source: Thrive, Children's Hospital Boston - Category: Pediatrics Authors: Tags: Ask the Expert Diseases & Conditions Amanda Lassiter back to school health Cleft and Craniofacial Center cleft lip and palate Source Type: news