Fear is the Root of Your Problems

By Leo Babauta Every problem you or I have (and they are many, small and large), is rooted in fear. For some, that might seem obvious: the question is how to beat the fears. For others, it’s not so self-evident: why are my financial or relationship or procrastination problems caused by fear? Let’s tackle both questions — the Why and the How. First the Why: think about each problem you have, and then think about why you have the problem. Or why you aren’t able to solve it. A few examples: Procrastination: you probably fear failure, or the discomfort of doing something hard, or your fear missing out on something important (why you check email & social media instead of doing the hard task). Debt: There are many possible causes, but often you’re spending more than you make because of a shopping habit, or a fear of letting go of some of the comforts you’re used to. The shopping habit might be caused by anxiety (fear that something you want isn’t going to happen) or loneliness (fear that you’re not good enough) or wanting your life to be better than it is (fear that you’re not OK as you are). Letting go of comforts (like your morning Starbucks, or your nice house or car) can be difficult if you fear discomfort, fear that you won’t be OK if your life is less comfortable, fear that others will judge you if your house/car/clothes aren’t as nice. Relationship problems: There are obviously lots of possible caus...
Source: Zen Habits - Category: Life Coaches Authors: Tags: Happiness Source Type: blogs